It has been more than a year since my cousin’s wedding and that dreaded phone call from Father. While I presumed that my parents were enjoying the grandeur of a big fat Indian wedding, Mother had been silently nursing a gnawing discomfort in her stomach.
By the end of the three-day celebration and after concerned relatives had packed and left, Mother’s agony pushed her to visit a doctor.
Hospitalisation in a place far from home quickly followed surgery.
Mother has always been petrified of doctors and hospitals. Whenever the situation to visit a doctor arose, she would cook up a list of excuses and if that failed she escaped into the confines of her sacred space — the kitchen — and cooked up a storm.
Entrapped in the trance of her culinary magic, we succumbed to her excuses. In hindsight, we had come to believe that Mother had a solution to all her problems — just as she always had one for ours.
Her efforts were always taken for granted until it was my turn to wear Mother’s hat.
I now know that patience is a virtue and not a boon that a new Mother is granted after the birth of her first child; that none of the objects that are strewn about after a busy morning grew legs and walked back into place and that it takes love, attention and effort to transform a house into a home.
Post her surgery and recovery, we have understood that Mother is no magic machine and like one of us, she too requires to be cared and sometimes coaxed into ensuring that she is well taken care of.
While she has learnt that her one-size-fits-all remedies might only give her more time at the hospital dreading needles and doctors, away from her favourite space — the kitchen — and to find it topsy-turvy after she makes a comeback.
After her new-found life lesson, Mother made that much-needed dental appointment. She must have been a dentist’s dream for she has quickly elevated to becoming a priority patient.
Dear Mothers, your efforts are often taken for granted as it is your children’s way of reassuring themselves that you are always there for them.
While you continue to love, fret and worry for your children even years after they have left home, it will give your children immense happiness and relief if you were to take care of yourself too.
Here is a reminder that you are a woman like no other and will always hold a special place in your children’s heart!
This is an extract from the article published in the Gulf News. To view the full article please click here. Wishing your Mommy and all the lovely Mommies in the blogosphere a very happy Mother’s Day.